セフレ

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Meanings

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friend with benefits; fuck buddy

abbreviationcolloquial

Casual abbreviation of セックスフレンド. Used among younger speakers to refer to a sexual partner without romantic commitment. Can sound crude or flippant depending on context.

See also: セックスフレンド

あの二人ふたり、付つき合あってるわけじゃなくて、ただのセフレらしいよ。
Those two aren't dating; apparently they're just friends with benefits.
セフレを作つくるより、ちゃんと恋こい人びとを探さがしたい。
Rather than finding a fuck buddy, I want to look for a real partner.

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Usage patterns

〈人ひと〉とセフレになるto become friends with benefits with someone
彼かれとはいつの間まにかセフレになっていた。
Before I knew it, he and I had become friends with benefits.
セフレの関かん係けいa friends-with-benefits relationship
二人ふたりはセフレの関かん係けいを続つづけている。
The two of them are keeping up a friends-with-benefits relationship.
セフレを作つくるto get/find a friend with benefits
彼かの女じょは寂さびしさからセフレを作つくった。
Out of loneliness, she got herself a friend with benefits.

Related words

セックスフレンド
セックスフレンド is the full, slightly less abbreviated form, while セフレ is the clipped, everyday slang version with the same meaning.

Opposites

恋こい人びとN3
セフレ refers to a purely sexual partner with no romantic commitment, whereas 恋人 refers to a romantic partner in a committed relationship.

Don't confuse with

友とも達だちN5
友達 means an ordinary friend with no sexual connotation, while セフレ (from セックスフレンド) specifically implies a sexual relationship, so learners may misread the 'フレ' part as simply meaning 'friend'.

Counted with

人にん
counter for people

Etymology

Abbreviation of セックスフレンド (sekkusu furendo), from English 'sex friend'. The exact derivation is straightforward; the clipped form emerged in casual Japanese speech.