逆さか恨うらみ

noun, noun or participle which takes 'suru', transitive verb

being resented by someone you resent; resentment from the person you hold a grudge against

Describes a situation where the person you dislike or resent ends up resenting you in return, often because of your own actions or attitude.

• 彼かれを避さけていたら、逆さか恨うらみされてしまった。

  I avoided him, and then he ended up resenting me for it.

• 注ちゅう意いしただけなのに、逆さか恨うらみされるとは思おもわなかった。

  I just gave him a warning; I didn't expect him to resent me for it.

noun, noun or participle which takes 'suru', transitive verb

resenting someone who meant well; misunderstanding kindness as ill will

Refers to resenting someone who actually intended to be kind or helpful, often due to a misunderstanding or misinterpreting their actions.

• 彼かの女じょは親しん切せつのつもりだったのに、逆さか恨うらみされて傷きずついた。

  She meant well, but he resented her for it and she was hurt.

• 忠ちゅう告こくを逆さか恨うらみするのはやめてほしい。

  I wish you wouldn't resent me for giving you advice.

noun, noun or participle which takes 'suru', transitive verb

unjustified resentment; unreasonable grudge

Colloquial use for holding a grudge without good reason, often based on a misunderstanding or one-sided perception.

• あの人ひとはすぐ逆さか恨うらみするから、話はなしにくい。

  That person holds unreasonable grudges easily, so it's hard to talk to them.

• それは完かん全ぜんに逆さか恨うらみだよ。

  That's totally unjustified resentment.