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Choosing Japanese reference words
Make two choices. First choose the relationship: こ for the speaker’s side, そ for the listener’s side or something just mentioned, あ for something distant or shared in memory, and ど when asking. Then choose what you need to refer to: a thing, a noun, a place, a direction, a manner, or a kind.
The complete grid
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| What you need | Speaker side | Listener side or just mentioned | Distant or shared | Question |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| A thing or matter standing alone | これ | それ | あれ | どれ |
| A specific noun | この | その | あの | どの |
| A place | ここ | そこ | あそこ | どこ |
| A direction, side, or careful reference | こちら | そちら | あちら | どちら |
| A manner or condition | こう | そう | ああ | どう |
| A kind or quality before a noun | こんな | そんな | あんな | どんな |
| An explained or classified kind before a noun | こういう | そういう | ああいう | どういう |
Learn this as a grid rather than as dozens of unrelated words. The beginning chooses the relationship; the rest chooses the job.
Distance is only the starting point
In a face-to-face scene, the speaker’s area and the listener’s area often matter more than exact meters. The same location can therefore be そこ to one person and ここ to the person standing there. When both people share one viewpoint, the three rows can instead suggest near, middle, and far areas. Conversation creates a similar map: そ often picks up information the other person has just introduced, while あ can recall something both people already remember.
New information and shared memory
The middle and distant rows can organize knowledge, not just visible space.
新しい喫茶店を見つけたんですか。その店は駅の近くですか。
You found a new coffee shop? Is that shop near the station?
AnalyzeThe shop has just been introduced, so the listener picks it up with the middle row.
学校の前に小さなパン屋があったね。あの店のパンはおいしかった。
There used to be a little bakery in front of the school, remember? The bread from that shop was delicious.
AnalyzeThe distant row evokes a shop that both speakers remember.
A thing by itself or a named noun
You are choosing among several umbrellas.
これは私のです。
This one is mine.
Analyzeこの傘は私のです。
This umbrella is mine.
Analyzeどれがあなたのですか。
Which one is yours?
Analyzeどの傘があなたのですか。
Which umbrella is yours?
AnalyzeTakeaway: これ・それ・あれ・どれ stand alone. この・その・あの・どの must be followed directly by the noun.
Ordinary place or careful direction
A staff member is showing a visitor where to go.
受付はここです。
The reception desk is here.
Analyze受付はこちらです。
The reception desk is this way.
AnalyzeThis is a careful, service-friendly way to indicate the place or direction.
こちらが案内担当の森さんです。
This is Ms. Mori, who will be your guide.
AnalyzeTakeaway: ここ simply identifies a place. こちら points to a direction or side and can carefully indicate a place, person, organization, or choice. It is polite in tone, but it is not an honorific form by itself.
Doing it this way or describing this kind
An instructor demonstrates an easy method.
ボタンをこう押してください。
Please press the button this way.
Analyzeこんな方法なら簡単です。
A method like this would be easy.
Analyzeこういう方法は初心者にも分かりやすいです。
This kind of method is easy for beginners to understand.
AnalyzeTakeaway: こう describes how an action is done or what a condition is like. こんな and こういう go directly before a noun and describe its kind.
Which one, where, how, or what kind?
どれ and どの ask you to identify a particular member of a known set. どこ asks for a place, and どう asks about a method, condition, or opinion. どんな and どういう ask for a description, type, or explanation rather than a choice from a list.
Register and everyday use
Most of this system is neutral and common in both conversation and writing. The direction series is especially useful in reception, shops, introductions, and business calls because it sounds careful. Match the rest of the sentence to that setting as well: choosing こちら cannot make an otherwise abrupt sentence polite.
More examples across the family
会議は中止ですか。それは残念です。
The meeting has been canceled? That is unfortunate.
Analyze昔みんなで撮ったあの写真を覚えていますか。
Do you remember that photograph we all took long ago?
Analyze次の休憩場所はどこですか。
Where is the next rest stop?
Analyzeこの箱はどう開けますか。
How do you open this box?
Analyzeお客様のお席はそちらです。
Your seat is over there.
Analyzeどんな部屋を探していますか。
What kind of room are you looking for?
Analyzeそういう意見も大切だと思います。
I think that kind of opinion is important too.
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