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you can't please everyone; damned if you do, damned if you don't
Proverb expressing the difficulty of satisfying all parties; when you try to accommodate one side, another side becomes unhappy.
あちら立てればこちらが立たぬで、どの案を選んでも誰かが不満を言う。
You can't please everyone; no matter which plan you choose, someone will complain.
Also a proverb about something being neither one thing nor the other, but focuses on something being impractical or unsuitable for any purpose, rather than the interpersonal conflict of pleasing people.
A traditional Japanese proverb. The exact origin is uncertain, but it uses the imagery of trying to stand something up on one side only to have it fall on the other.