相あい悔くやみ

noun

mutual mourning

Refers to a situation where two parties are both in mourning, and according to custom, they refrain from exchanging condolence calls or offering help to each other. This is a specialized term related to Japanese funeral etiquette.

• 相あい悔くやみの間あいだは、お互たがいに弔ちょう問もんを控ひかえるのがしきたりです。

  During mutual mourning, it is customary to refrain from making condolence calls to each other.