expression
you can't please everyone; damned if you do, damned if you don't
Proverb expressing the difficulty of satisfying all parties; when you try to accommodate one side, another side becomes unhappy.
あちら立てればこちらが立たぬで、どの案を選んでも誰かが不満を言う。
You can't please everyone; no matter which plan you choose, someone will complain.
Also a proverb about something being neither one thing nor the other, but focuses on something being impractical or unsuitable for any purpose, rather than the interpersonal conflict of pleasing people.
Standard kana-mixed spelling for this proverb.
Kanji spelling using 彼方 and 此方; rarely used in modern writing.
A traditional Japanese proverb. The exact origin is uncertain, but it uses the imagery of trying to stand something up on one side only to have it fall on the other.