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羽は目めになるend up having to

Circumstances landed someone, often you, with something they didn't want to do: "ended up having to". It is how people tell their own bad luck.

How to form it

Verb (dictionary form) + 羽は目めになる

Often written in kana: はめになる. 羽は目めになった for what happened, 羽は目めになる as a warning, 羽は目めになりそうだ for what looks likely. Stiffer: 羽は目めに陥おちいる.

Before it
Something nobody would choose: extra work, a long walk, paying out of your own pocket, explaining yourself.
What leads to it
A slip, bad luck or someone else's doing, usually said first with ので, ため or せいで.
Where you'll meet it
Everyday talk, whenever someone tells how things went wrong. Novels and columns too.

In use

It is never good news

English "ended up" can be neutral, or even happy. 羽は目めになる can't: whatever comes before it is a burden.

Sounds odd: 彼かの女じょと結けっ婚こんする羽は目めになった。

I got stuck with marrying her.

It says the marriage was forced on you. A plain "we ended up getting married" is 結けっ婚こんすることになった.

始し末まつだ or 羽は目めになる?

He kept turning up late, and now it has come to staying away without a word.

What he sank to. You are fed up with him.

In the end I got stuck with doing it all myself.

What you got stuck with. You didn't choose it.

Close neighbours

始し末まつだN1

Ends an account of things going from bad to worse with the last, worst thing someone did. It looks back in exasperation, and doesn't warn.

ことになるN4

How things turned out, or what has been decided. Good news or bad, it doesn't say.

ざるを得えないN2

The written "have no choice but to". The weight is on there being no way out, not on your bad luck.

Check yourself

1Which one fits?

今いま確かく認にんしておかないと、あとで全ぜん部ぶ(  )よ。

Choose an answer to see why.

2Which one fits?

ずっと行いきたかった京きょう都との支し店てんで働はたらく(  )。

Choose an answer to see why.

More detail

羽は目めを外はずす, "to let yourself go", is a separate phrase.

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