てもらいたい・
てもらう with たい: you would like someone to do something, and you put it as a favor to you. ていただきたい is the same wish when that someone is above you, or a customer.
everyday
I'd like a friend to help me move.
to someone above you
I would like you to look at this document.
How to form it
(person に) + Verb in the て-form + もらいたい／いただきたい
たい changes like an い-adjective: もらいたいです, もらいたかった. People soften it with んだけど, んですが or と思います.
Who does it
It works as てもらう does: the one who would do it takes に, and you are the one who gets the favor. Talking to that person, you usually leave them out.
I'd like you to take some time and think it over properly.
てもらいたい or てほしい?
Both say what you want someone to do, and often either fits.
I want you to come at nine tomorrow.
States what you want.
I'd like you to come at nine tomorrow.
Puts the same wish as a favor to you, so it is a little more considerate.
Who says it to whom
Either way, you are telling someone what you want. Said to the person, plain てもらいたい is for friends, family and people junior to you. From a boss it is an instruction.
Sorry, but I'd like you to check these figures once more.
All right. I'll check them today.
A manager, to someone on her team.
To a teacher, a boss or a customer it becomes ていただきたい, usually left open with んですが. It is polite, but it is still your wish.
Please speak a little more slowly.
Tells them. Polite, and still an instruction.
I'd like you to speak a little more slowly.
Says what you would like.
Could you speak a little more slowly?
Asks. A question leaves them free to say no.
In notices and briefings
Offices, schools and companies use ていただきたい to say what they expect of people. The wording is respectful and the request is firm.
In the interview, we would like you to talk about your own experience in concrete terms.
From now on, we ask you to keep strictly to your appointment time.
Hoping people will
It is also how a writer, a teacher or a parent says what they hope people will do. Nobody is being asked.
I'd like younger generations to read this work too.
I want the children to find the answer for themselves.
Close neighbours
てほしいN4
Also the usual one for a hope nobody can grant: the weather, luck.
I hope it is sunny tomorrow.
させてもらいたいN3
With させて, you are the one who would act: "I'd like to be allowed to".
I'm not feeling well, so I'd like to leave early today.
A stiffer version, from staff and in written notices: ご記入いただきたい, ご理解いただきたい.
We would like you to fill out this form, please.
Check yourself
1What does this mean?
母に
Choose an answer to see why.
2Which one leaves your teacher free to say no?
Choose an answer to see why.
More detail
ないでもらいたい
What you would like someone not to do takes ないでもらいたい or ないでいただきたい. However polite, it is a complaint.
I'd like you not to park your bicycle here.
More sentences
I want the plan reworked by next week.
From a boss, with nothing to soften it.
I want the person in charge to explain this directly.
If possible, I would like you to let me know the result by email.
We ask all participants to be in their seats by the starting time.